Confession: I love giving my man a good blow job.
I know some women hate performing oral sex on a guy, and I get it — having someone’s dick thrusting inside your mouth isn’t everyone’s idea of fun. But to me, there’s nothing more empowering and exciting than to see and feel my man as I am giving him total pleasure.
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Men love blow jobs because the act feels like sex, but it’s a very different experience — they get to relax and receive and just enjoy what’s happening for them.
The visual element of watching their penis slip in and out of your mouth gets a lot of guys going. Not to mention, your mouth is wet and warm, like a vagina (or a lubed-up hand), but your lips and tongue are living, roving, irreplaceable works of art.
Howeverm as with any sex act, enjoying the experience yourself (which, if you’re going to do it, you absolutely should) typically comes from having some level of confidence in yourself — and that comes from knowing what you’re doing.
So whether it’s your first time or your hundredth time going down, these 10 expert-level blowjob tips will show you how to give your man a perfect blowjob, and make it more pleasurable for yourself in the process. Get ready to become a blow job queen!
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1. Be Enthusiastic
For a guy, there’s nothing better than knowing your partner is genuinely enjoying your dick. That enthusiasm is what makes an incredible blow job.
One of the best ways you can show your enthusiasm is by initiating it. For example, A surprise blowjob when he walks in the door or when he wakes up in the morning.
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The next time you’re sitting around watching another Netflix marathon, tell him, “you know, I’d rather have your dick in my mouth right now.”
When you’re out at dinner, whisper, “can we please get out of here? I need to suck your cock, right now.”
Keep that enthusiasm going when you’re giving him head.
Moan loudly and energetically. Look him in the eyes and smile. Take his dick out of your mouth and rub it on your cheek or your tits. Keep telling him how hot it makes you to be pleasuring him.
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2. The Wetter the Better
You know what they say, the best blow jobs are the wettest blow jobs. Just like when he’s eating your pussy and driving you crazy with his mouth, it has to be wet to feel good. Use lots of spit, and lots more.
Make it really wet with your mouth. It’s okay if spit is running down his cock. That’s the whole idea!
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The head and frenulum (the V-shape on the underside of his penis where the head meets the shaft) are the most sensitive parts of a man’s dick. It’s the male equivalent to the clitoris, so use your tongue and lips on those parts accordingly.
Suck his cock like you worship it. Purse your lips and let it slip inside, and then swish your tongue all over the head.
The swirling, French-kissing technique is usually good. French kiss the head of his cock as if you’re in a porn movie… kiss it, suck on it, swirl your tongue around it, over it, under it, encircle it.
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3. Use your hands along with your mouth
While the head, frenulum and foreskin can feel pleasure from light touch, the shaft needs a firmer pressure.
Firmly wrap your hand around the base of his penis, making an OK sign with your thumb and forefinger, then bring your lips down to meet your hand. Try to keep your mouth and your fist glued together while you move up and down his penis. This is the standard move that will make a guy cum quickly.
Twist your wrist as you move along his shaft instead of just going up and down. If you can twist your head a bit too, that’s even better!
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4. Eye Contact
When you have his dick in your mouth and you look in his eyes like you wanna rape him and fuck his brains out, the blowjob will feel that much better.
However, don’t hold the gaze directly for too long, and only do this if you thoroughly enjoy giving him head. If you don’t, he will see it.
How long should a good blow job last? Some blowjobs last 5 minutes and are a prerequisite for sex, some last half an hour and are the main event themselves. Either way, the best blowjob is when you make him cum.
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5. Don’t Neglect the balls
Take his entire scrotum into your hand. Testicles are sensitive, so you’ll need to find a good balance between grasping firmly enough (too light will feel ticklish), and not being too rough. Roll his balls around in your hand while you continue sucking his dick. Give the whole sack a few soft tugs.
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Very gently use your thumb and forefinger to pinch the skin between the two balls, and slide your fingers from the base of his scrotum to the tips of his testicles. Then try focusing on his balls with your mouth. Keep your hand going on his penis as you lick all around his testicles with a broad, flat tongue. Try taking each ball in your mouth for a minute. You can also try licking in between the balls, going all the way from the back of his scrotum to the front.
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6. The Finish
It’s a good idea to mention where you’d like him to orgasm early on in the blow job. We all get to make our own decisions about what feels right for our sex lives.
When you want to finish, try to recreate the fucking motion with your mouth and hand. Open your mouth a little wider (so your teeth aren’t involved) letting his cock slide between your lips in and out of your mouth. Use a tight grip with your hands to milk his cock while your tongue rubs the head and frenulum.
When he’s cumming, it’s best to just keep doing what you’re doing. If you don’t want him to cum in your mouth, then jack it really hard, pump it with your fist, and aim the cock wherever you want the cum – tits, face, tummy, guys like cumming on those places – but usually nothing as much as in your mouth.
If you’re genuinely uncomfortable with swallowing, keep a box of tissues nearby and discretely spit into them when he’s finished. If he’s into being messy, you can make a show of it by letting his semen slip out of your mouth and onto his dick.
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You’ll know when you’ve really mastered your blowjob technique when you begin to genuinely enjoy it! Because really, is there any better feeling than knowing you’re fully in control of giving your lover the most exquisite pleasure?
