Best Blow Job Ever

Ask any guy, and they will tell you the same thing: There is a massive difference between giving your man oral sex – just sucking his dick – and giving him an absolutely mind-blowing bj.

A friend of mine loves giving blowjobs, and gives them out frequently, along with advice to all her eager friends on how to make a man go wild and instantly fall in love with her. Girls revere her word. Recently though, it’s trickled back from guys that she’s actually not that good.

With all her practice, if she still can’t pull it off, what exactly is the secret to a good blowjob?

Sucking your man’s cock is certainly a sensual and enjoyable experience for him, but giving your man amazing head is a more intense, erotic, inhibition-free sex act… That’s what this guide is all about.

Rule #1: In order to suck a man’s dick right, you have to enjoy sucking dick.

Not surprisingly, the best oral sex is from the girls who actually like giving it. Think about it. If a guy made gagging sounds when he’s returning the favor, it would ruin your time, too. So if you don’t like it, don’t do it and you can both save a lot of time and energy.

Now let’s get down to the dirty. If you want to give a man the perfect blow job keep these points in mind:

1. 

   Start Off Slow

   Start with him either on a bed lying down or on the edge of a bed propped up so he can watch. Guys are truly visual creatures — hence the massive porn industry — so the more he gets to see, the happier he will be.

   Also don’t forget to put something under your knees if you’re kneeling, like a pillow or a blanket if it’s handy. Obviously, with your skills you’ll be able to control exactly how long you’re down there, but worrying about knee pain isn’t exactly what should be on your mind either.

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   At this point each guy has his preference and what works for some will leave others at less than perfect attention. However, girls will usually fall into two schools of thought: teasers, and the girls who go straight for the gold.

   Girls who tease generally are the ones who realize just how much control they have. And let me tell you, they do. So have fun with it.

   

   Picture eating a delicious and melting ice cream cone. You start at the bottom and lick the sides so they don’t melt, then you working your way up to the top and then take in the whole thing. Teasers more or less follow the same strategy and who knows there might be ice cream involved, or at least a chocolate topping.

   Also, with teasers, it’s never a race. Enjoy the power you have and how much he should be enjoying it. So bring him to the brink, then bring him down. Do it a couple of times. It might be hard to gauge but it’ll make for a time he’ll never forget.

   If you’re really taking your time, and are more adventurous, you can start with the family jewels (carefully). This is one of those times when cutting your nails and keeping them smooth will really pay off. If you’re into oral action right off the bat, go for it. This is a practice that can go either way for guys so gauge or ask him if he’s into it. Word of caution for the over achievers — one at a time, it’ll be more than enough.

   Now it’s time to go in. Take it slow and take only what you can manage. It’s not worth choking or coughing. Your comfort is just as important.

2. 

   Get Things Wet with Some Lubrication

   This is key if you want things to feel good so start by making things plenty wet. Use your tongue and work your way up and down.

   I’ll even let you in on a little secret.

   A good blow job isn’t about how deep you can go, it’s more about technique.

   So take only what length you feel comfortable. (Tip: use your hand as a stopper to limit how far in his penis can go into your mouth).

3. 

   Keep a Rhythm Going

   For a really good blowjob, you want to pick a comfortable rhythm and stick to it. Keep in mind that you could be sucking his dick for 15 seconds or 15 minutes! It all depends on how long he takes to cum.

   Blowjobs are all about building to a tipping point, and changing your rhythm or stopping entirely can mean that you lose all the progress you made towards climax!

4. 

   Focus on the Suction

   Suck his dick gently. Sucking on it will cause your lips and the inside of your mouth to press softly against his shaft and the head of his cock, stimulating the length of it. While doing this, you can take his penis in and out of your mouth, allowing you to pleasure it entirely.

   This kind of feeling is what we are programmed to respond to sexually (think of an ass or vagina). You want your tongue and mouth tight around his dick. The closer you can get to feel like real sex the better.

5. 

   Watch the Teeth

   Finally, you need to keep in mind your teeth. To put it simply: Teeth + Dick = Pain

   To fix this, tense your lips slightly over your teeth. Again not too strong because you don’t want to exhaust your muscles, but just enough to block your teeth. Teaching yourself how to give a blowjob the right way by avoiding pain or negative sensations is extra important.

   This will also apply a bit of pressure on his dick which if done right will feel nice.

6. 

   Use All Your Tools

   Learning how to give a blowjob isn’t just about using your mouth, it’s also about using your whole body!

   Rub your legs on his, lick on and around his balls, kiss his dick, play with his nipples, and always, always use your hands.

   One rule of thumb I always follow is to keep your hands occupied. You can use one hand on his dick move it up and down with your mouth.

   You can also use your other hand to play with his nipples, balls, or rub his thighs.

   If you’re going right for the gold, the key is the art of multitasking; coordinating your lips, mouth, tongue, and hands will make you his gold standard. The point is to really make sure he can feel everything as strongly as possible. Making the skin taut will make him ultra sensitive to everything, so keeping one hand in an “ok” sign tight at the base will make him feel those 12 amps.

   Advanced placement is all about coordination and stimulation. Experiment. Try making you hand into a tube or try twisting motions. Move your mouth and hand together or move them separately; always stimulating other parts of his body and alternate speed and pressure. Finally, remember to switch things up. I’m not suggesting you bring in a pink elephant out of left field, but not always knowing what to expect is half the fun.

7. 

   Spit or Swallow?

   Swallowing comes down to personal preference and is something that YOU decide. Depending on the person, swallowing can be sexy, and for people like me, is not their cup of tea.

Other things to also consider: it’s pretty easy to pull off the hot-cold trick, and this can really be used anywhere on the body. Bring a hot and cold drink with you and have him close his eyes, or even blind fold him. Then, first sip one of the drinks and go to work; then have some of the other. The change in sensation will be amazing.

There’s also the infamous mint trick. Essentially you eat a mint before you start. But be careful: Some mints are too strong and will turn him off to breath mints for a very long time.

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As simple as oral sex, and guys, are sometimes billed to be, there’s really no one formula. As with your own pleasure, it’s all about finding what works for you personally — that’s what makes sucking dick an art.

Hopefully, you’ll be able to work it well enough that he’ll be asking how to return the favor!